Cut Me In Half

By Richard Kuhns

Stress can literally be crippling which is why it’s important to know how to relieve stress. Here are just three actual case experiences demonstrating how emotional stress can affect one’s musculature in a crippling manner.

• On Joe’s way driving back from California to NJ he learned that the IRS would be auditing him. By the time he reached NJ his hands were clenched on the steering wheel and his leg muscles were so tight that he required crutches to walk.

• Jim was married to a very jealous woman who demanded a lot of attention and felt that he was a mama’s boy. Jim felt torn between his mother and his new wife and began experiencing eye twitches.

• Larry’s father was a demeaning controlling man. He came home one day to find that Larry hadn’t gotten around to straightening the garage as promised. He called Larry a “stupid shit,” and Larry’s stuttering which we had worked for two months to eliminate returned immediately.

• Tom’s wife left him after six years of marriage. There were many things he wanted to say to her in hopes of changing her mind, but she wouldn’t listen to him and he developed a lazy tongue resulting in speaking difficulties.

These examples demonstrate the power of stress over the body. In each case, an emotional stress led to excessive uncontrolled crippling muscle tension.

Stressors such as Joe’s that can stand in the way of getting things done such as the IRS create tension in the legs. Stressors that affect one’s self worth such as with Larry and Tom, create lazy tongue and or contribute to stuttering.

Stressors such as Jim’s where he felt torn between his mother and wife create muscle twitching.

It’s normal that with some of these reactions, such as with Joe’s crippling reaction, doctors run tests for MS as the symptoms are very painful and serious. Barring any disease, the solution is to take back control of one’s musculature.

This is done with a stress reliever exercise:
1. First by often dealing with self worth issues–learning how to build self worth in the midst of crisis.
2. Secondly to use specific stress management techniques for managing muscle tension.

a. Practice abdominal breath management techniques.

b. Selectively tense sequential groups of muscles daily keeping the rest of the body relaxed–takes approximately 20 minutes to do entire body as specified later in the stress coping exercise. Depending on severity of symptoms, this is done many times per day for the specific muscles affected.

c. Reminder each time that you tense/relax that you’d like to forget about it (it referring to the muscular reaction to stress)

The amazing thing was that Joe could walk absolutely normally for twenty minutes after he did the 20 minute tense/relax stress reliever exercise.

The coping with stress exercise goes like this.
a. Slowly tense a particular group of muscles keeping the rest of your body relaxed.
b. Cause it to become tense and hold that tension for a few seconds.
c. Slowly let the tension go as you breathe deeply.
d. Remind yourself that you prefer the relaxed feeling over the tense feeling.

A muscle sequence would go like this:
• Make a fist with your right hand.
• Then a fist with your left hand.
• Push you right hand into the arm of the chair to tense you forearm and upper arm.
• Repeat for the left arm.
• Lift your shoulders high to tense them leaving your arms just hanging loose.
• Push you head into the back of a chair to tense the neck.
• Scrunch your facial muscles.
• Tense your forehead.
• Arch your back.
• Take a Deep Breadth and hold it to tense your chest.
• Push out with your abdomen.
• Tense your buttocks.
• Tense your right and then left leg.
• Tense your right and then left foot.

This is a general relaxation that should take approximately twenty minutes. For specific muscle groups the muscles groups are refined to include only the affected muscles. For instance cds are available for handling general muscle tension, neck and shoulder tension, and for stuttering which focuses on muscles of the mouth and tongue on my website.

Usually a combination approach of dealing with the life crisis plus muscle relaxation exercises over the course of two to three months is all that’s required to gain a significant foot hold on the problem. And this is pretty good considering these problems often exits for years before starting this stress management technique.

Richard Kuhns B.S.Ch.E., NGH certified makes it easy to manage stress with muscle awareness training techniques. He is a is a prominent figure in the field of stress management and personal change. He is the author behind the best selling hypnosis self help cds and a specialist with panic attacks.  Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Richard_Kuhns

By Mike Ryeman

It’s a common complaint, isn’t it? We feel stressed, so what do we do? We eat…and eat… Oh, the comfort! But then there’s the downside. The waistline expands. The thighs thicken. And the… Well, everything goes! Energy and health levels drop, so we feel more depressed. But you needn’t stay trapped in this vicious cycle. Just by making a few good choices, you can begin to feel much, much better. Here are a few ideas for a healthy diet for stress relief.

Blame Helps No-one!

Yes, you feel stressed and worried and anxious. So dieting is the last thing on your mind. It’s a fact that our bodies have not evolved in line with fast food distribution. We’re naturally attracted to high calorie foods because our ancestors never knew when the next sabre-toothed tiger was about to pounce. So they had to run… and run fast! But we don’t even walk as much as we used to. It’s so much easier to drive, isn’t it?

Another thing… Our ancestors used to work outside all day, hunting and tilling the fields. There was less stress and more exercise, and this ensured better food assimilation. They didn’t have to worry about taking a healthy diet for stress relief. So we need to retrain ourselves to adapt to foods that are more suited to our modern lifestyles and conditions. It just takes practice!

Two Essentials: More Water, More Fiber

Even if this is all you do, drink more water and consume more fiber! This will greatly aid any healthy diet for stress relief. Medical opinion is now aware that dehydration is the cause of many illnesses and conditions in Western society. Constipation and/or insufficient elimination affects the mood and emotions as well as the body. The answer is water and fiber! Fresh fruits, vegetables, nuts, whole grains and pulses are excellent sources of fiber. And fruit juices are excellent sources of water for those who complain that water is ‘boring’. (But alcoholic drinks don’t count, as these tend to dehydrate the body.)

A Caffeine Fix

Many people seem unaware that caffeine also dehydrates the body – and that it is found not only in coffee, but in tea, many ’soft’ drinks and in chocolate. Cutting back here can go a long way in restoring your healthy diet for stress relief. But there’s no need to cut them out all at once. Simply make a determined effort to cut back gradually on your caffeine intake.

Results may not be noticed right away, but if you persevere you’ll soon feel – if not actually see – a difference. And this in itself will boost your confidence so that you can make other choices to bring about a more healthy diet for stress relief.

Interested in more highly-effective stress management tips? For the very best, visit Mike Ryeman’s website and make that big breakthrough today: http://www.stressreliefgold.com. Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Mike_Ryeman

By Norman Hurst

If you are unfortunate enough to suffer from panic attacks, you will know that there are a wide variety of symptoms. All of them are distressing and can have a negative impact on how you live your life, maybe even causing you to be constantly worried about when your next panic attack will arrive.

By learning to control how you breathe, you can make a vast difference to your panic attacks and, given time and practice, you may even be able to stop them dead in their tracks.

Initially, it may not be easy to breathe into your panic attack. It is worth practicing these breathing exercises so that they will become a natural reaction for you.

Breathing exercises are a simple yet effective way to deal with your panic attacks.

Learning to breathe from the diaphragm

You need to learn how to breathe from your diaphragm. Once you’ve learned this method, you’ll find that it becomes second nature. Initially it may seem a slightly odd way to breathe. Stick with it and you’ll see some positive results quite fast.

Breathing from the diaphragm is actually the most natural method of breathing. You used it as a baby but, over time, you have learned other, less natural breathing methods. Now is the time to re-learn!

Place one hand on your abdomen (the part of your body that lies between your chest and your thigh) and the other hand on your chest. As you start to breathe, your chest should remain still and barely moving as you breathe in. Instead, your stomach should expand with the air you are breathing in.

Once you’ve taken a deep breath in, slowly start to exhale. Imagine that all the air leaves your body as you breathe out.

The aim of this technique is to slow down your breathing. After a few deep breaths, you should be taking around six breaths a minute. Probably quite a few less than the shallow breaths you are taking at the moment.

Your breathing rhythm should be slow and natural. There’s no need to rush. Your stomach should rise and fall smoothly. Although I suggested imagining that you are breathing all the air out of your body, keep that thought in your imagination. Don’t strain breathing in or out.

If you feel dizzy or light headed when practicing this new breathing method, just stop and relax. Once you are back to normal, start to practice again. Keep up the practice for a few minutes.

Congratulations! Now that you’ve learned this breathing technique, you can simply apply it whenever you feel the symptoms of a panic attack coming along. At the slightest hint of any of the symptoms, start to breathe from your diaphragm. This alone should reduce the risk of hyperventilating when you next suffer from a panic attack.

For more top tips for dealing with panic attacks and other simple ways to cope, check out this website  (Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Norman_Hurst)

By Thejendra Sreenivas

If you were to type the word “stress” in any internet search engine you will get a billion pieces of information related to stress and the harm it can cause. A general dictionary defines stress as, “A specific response by the body to a stimulus, as fear or pain that disturbs or interferes with the normal physiological equilibrium of an organism, mental, or emotional strain or tension.” The word stress is derived from the Latin word ‘stringere’ meaning to ‘draw tight’ describing hardships.

Everyday millions of people around the world experience stress ranging from mild dosages to extreme cases that lead to several complicated health disorders. Even animal, insects and plants experience various degrees of stress due to several reasons.Dr. Hans Selye, a reputed author of numerous papers and books on stress says headaches, insomnia, high blood pressure, heart and kidney diseases are the common problems created by stress. According to his expert opinion, “every stress leaves an indelible scar, and the organism pays for its survival after a stressful situation by becoming a little older”.

When you are stressed your adrenal glands produce a hormone called cortisol. Cortisol is highly toxic substance that attacks muscles, organs, and rapidly diminishes your strength. It also diminishes your immune system leading to various kinds of mental and physical disorders. Stress is your body’s natural response to every day’s physical, emotional and environmental demands.Many people often confuse stress with plain tiredness. Whenever you ask someone if they are stressed they immediately say they are okay or feeling fine. But the reality is different. You could be highly stressed, but not physically tired. This is because stress is a silent killer and creeps into a person silently. You cannot avoid stress totally in today’s life, especially in today’s modern, complex workplace. It is a mental thing that has the potential to create complicated health disorders. To understand the difference between stress and tiredness just imagine a hot cup of coffee. The hot coffee can contain very less sugar or a high quantity of sugar.

The quantity of sugar (sweetness) is comparable to stress, while the temperature (hotness) is comparable to tiredness. The sweetness of the coffee does not reduce even when the coffee cools down. Similarly a person need not be physically tired, but could be under a lot of stress internally. For example, an impending tough exam, a court case, losing a job, workplace harassments, dealing with irrational people, accepting a heavy responsibility, etc., can create a lot of stress. On the other hand plain tiredness, usually caused by excessive physical activity or exercise can be eliminated by a few hours of sound sleep, or a good hot bath. But stress cannot be eliminated by sleep or a bath.

Often people under duress will not be able to identify or sometimes admit the precise reason for their stress, and start feeling the whole world is ganging up on them. Over time stressed people will soon be unable to state exactly whey they are stressed. They feel attacked from all sides, feel unlucky, exhausted and start getting agitated at everything, trivial, big, related or unrelated. And the standard reasons people give for stress will be vague and generic stuff like work pressure, traffic, noise, politics, etc. But pointing fingers at vague and subjective stuff do not help you in finding workable solutions. You need to be exact, but how?Today, the modern crazy workplace is one of the single biggest sources of stress for employees and their families. A stressed out employee can not only cause problems for himself, but also cause various problems for all his family members. On our planet the number of reasons why people get stressed or agitated could run into thousands.

However, in the workplace the number of reasons for stress will normally be limited to a few areas, or sometimes just a single issue that could be igniting your fuse. But learning to recognizing those few ones is important to tackle them objectively without getting ruffled up. Usually a stress management consultant will be usually able to accurately pin point your stress trigger and suggest remedies. But what if you don’t have access to such consultants, embarrassed to visit one or even unable to afford their services? Also in many cases it may impossible to openly admit to stress. For example CEOs, senior managers, and famous personalities can never honestly admit to being stress, or openly visit a stress management consultant. This is because reputed personalities in all fields always need to portray a picture of a vibrant, healthy and evergreen human being to the media, press and the public.

If they accidentally admit to stress a newspaper may print an absurd headline like, “CEO OF XYZ CORP ADMITS TO LOSING HIS MARBLES!!!” and the company can get into trouble. So what do you do? Remember it is a health matter and cannot be simply ignored either, because it will only deteriorate or explode you with time. Unless you believe your stress is an extreme case where only a qualified doctor can repair you it may be possible to identify specific stress triggers, or what exactly ignites your fuse, and often solve them yourself. Pin pointing your stress generator is the first step in trying to find a solution to it. If you cannot pinpoint it is like trying to shoot a target you cannot see. But how exactly do you pin point your stress generator without visiting a stress management consultant? Just use a simple technique called – ASKING QUESTIONS TO YOURSELF, similar to what consultants and doctors do when you go for consultation. Through appropriate and pertinent questions to yourself it is actually possible to identify your stress generators, and often eliminate or control them on your own without external help. So whenever you are stressed in the workplace start asking yourself the following questions. You can add more questions if necessary, but this list should be enough to begin with.

• 1. Are the job requirements absolutely clear in real world terms for what you are trying to do, or expected of you? Or, are you simply chasing hype and jargon?

• 2. Do you have the necessary tools, knowledge, resources, staffing, training and budgets to do what you are trying to do?

• 3. Are the timeframes realistic for whatever you are trying to do, or are you chasing artificial deadlines created by clueless people? Are you burning out chasing unrealistic expectations from impatient customers, end users, bosses, etc?

• 4. Are you working in a humorless department or organization?

• 5. Are you generally short tempered and impatient by nature? Do you habitually get flared up over trivial workplace issues? Are others expecting you to read their mind and act accordingly? Alternatively, do you expect others to read your mind and act accordingly?

• 6. Is it a specific colleague(s) who is the cause for your stress, or is somebody constantly breathing down your neck? Is someone out to get you, discredit you or snatch the credit for your efforts?

• 7. Is somebody’s short temper and irrational behavior preventing you from doing or saying the right things?

• 8. Are you having financial difficulties? Do you have no control over your spending? Are you spending more than you are earning?
• 9. Is a corporate rumor about getting fired, downsizing, reorganization, etc., causing stress?

• 10. Do you have to do everything yourself? Are you getting the required help from your colleagues and other departments? Are you always trying to go out of your way to get things done? Are you trying to tackle things that are not in your control?

• 11. Is the work you are doing really difficult, or are you just dealing with difficult and irrational customers and bosses who create panic and terror to cover up their inadequacies?

• 12. Are you worrying about something that happened in the past or may happen in the future?

• 13. Do you have any known health problems that could be causing stress? Have you had a complete health check up to detect hidden health disorders? Is a family member’s health or behavior creating stress and agitation in the workplace?

• 14. Are you trying to reinvent the wheel in getting a job done? Can you get tips, procedures and suggestions from someone who has done such things already?

• 15. If your life controlled by emails, pagers, mobile phones, blogs, iPODs, laptops and other electronic leashes?

• 16. Do you have access to a quiet place like a park or lots of greenery to sit for an hour or two doing nothing? It can be very relaxing and discharge workplace worries.

• 17. Are you working in a badly managed project? Is everything in your organization or department urgent and chaotic due to poor planning, an impatient boss, etc? Is your department understaffed and overworked?

• 18. Are you taking care of your health and rest properly? Are you getting your eight hours of calm sleep daily?

• 19. Are you trying to please or seek admiration from everyone? Are you an appreciation seeking addict? Is somebody’s urgency or poor planning an emergency for you?

• 20. Do you wear uncomfortable and tight clothes to work? Uncomfortable clothes, tight neckties and certain nylon materials can often cause a lot of fatigue and agitation without you realizing why.

• 21. Are you bad at time management? Are there too many things on your plate? Can you ignore or eliminate the unnecessary ones?

• 22. Are family problems creating hell at work? Are work problems creating hell at home?

• 23. Do you have too much work? Do you have very less or no work? Very less work can also create anxiety about the continuity of your job.

And the questions can go on further or depending on the nature of your work the list of questions can change. But as you can see, precision questions like above can often pin point the exact cause of your stress. Next eliminating that stress will be in the precision answers you can provide, solutions you can gather or the specific actions you can take to reduce them. The solutions may not drop in overnight but you can definitely find solutions over time to switch to the right stress reduction lane gradually. And we can conclude this article by two beautiful quotes on questions by Anthony Robbins. Questions provide the key to unlocking our unlimited potential. Successful people ask better questions, and as a result, they get better answers. Happy self interrogation.

Thejendra is an IT manager & consultant for a software development firm in Bangalore, India. Starting as a field engineer in the previous century, he has 17+ years experience in a variety of IT roles like Support, Helpdesk, DRP-BCP, Asset Management, IT Security, etc., and has worked in India, Middle East, Singapore and Australia. In addition, he also writes humor, technical and serious management topics, and strongly believes humor is the most powerful of all leadership styles. His articles have appeared on reputed websites like geekleaders.com, cio.com, drj.com, sourcingmag.com and many ezines. He has written two books on IT Service Management and Disaster Recovery available on http://www.itgovernance.co.uk and a series of nutty Business Humor books called Corporate Wardrobe, available on http://www.ebookomatic.com. Contact the author at: thejendra@yahoo.com (Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Thejendra_Sreeniva ).